My hair journey has been such a long one. I have always had long hair and relished in it. I enjoyed the fact that is was long and it was my pride. However, I hated how it looked. I hated that It was frizzy and curly because at the time it seemed like all my friends had long, straight hair and I did not. I ended up spending HOURS each time I washed my hair straightening it. I would do everything I could to keep it straight and always did touch ups when I went out. As the years progressed, I lost my natural curl and it ended up being more wavy than curly and I was okay with that. As I progressed into my late teens and early twenties, I started dying it excessively. I had it pink for a while then I had red hair for about 2 years or so and just kept dying it and kept straightening it.
In 2018 I had this big urge to chop all my hair off. Literally. I didn’t want it anymore, all I seemed to be doing was putting it up and not actually doing anything with it. I never got the guts to cut it off and instead, just carried on resenting it. It looked nice when I did put effort into it but most of the time I just never did. Finally after moving from Holland to New York with a bit of a break in South Africa, I was driving from work one day and I literally went ‘eff this’ and pulled into the nearest supercuts. I went in and said hey, I wanna chop all my hair off in one length, can you do that? It was the middle of December, right before they closed and she was a bit taken aback but she did it. She tied my hair up and cut it all off to my shoulders. It was the most liberating and scary thing I have done recently. I had my hair cut to the shortest I have ever had that I could remember and suddenly, I did not know what to do.
It has been a long journey since then, trying to fall in love with the short hair but also, I got my curls back and by back, I mean I get a huge ass afro and that is really cool! A lot of people did not recognise me because everyone is so used to the crazy short hair or the aquamarine colour that I put in it. Mostly people were shocked that I have curly hair!
I have really fell in love with my hair and I am in the process of growing it out again because, as much as I love this length, I really miss my long hair.
Another thing that I have loved about this journey is really just discovering how much I love my curls and that they make me really happy. My main goal when I got back to the states was to buy a straightner and I did but I have used it, I think twice since I got it because I just really am enjoying my natural hair. There has been freedom and liberation from saying ‘eff you’ to society’s norms and I am here for it.
Let me know if you have done anything similar recently. I would love to hear about it!
Wow that’s so cool! Really admire your guts to chop it all off and happy to read you’re falling back in love with your hair. Btw, I think those curls look amazing on you!
That’s so awesome you finally got the cut!! I think it looks great and I love your naturally curly hair! So pretty.
Kileen
cute & little
Good for you having the courage to do that! It looks super cute in the picture!!!
Thank you so much! I appreciate it!